Love them or hate them ...New Year’s resolutions. The truth is that I love them and approach them seriously and have for decades. But, I have found “past year reviews” a lot more more informed, valuable. It takes 30-60 minutes, so go and do it.
- Grab a notepad and create two columns: POSITIVE and NEGATIVE.
- Go through your calendar or your memory from the last year, looking at every week.
- For each week, jot down on the pad any people or activities or commitments that triggered peak positive or negative emotions for that month. Put them in their respective columns.
- Once you’ve gone through the past year, look at your notepad list and ask, “What 20% of each column produced the most reliable or powerful peaks?”
- Based on the answers, take your “positive” leaders and schedule more of them in the new year. Get them on the calendar now! Book things with friends and prepay for activities/events/commitments that you know work. It’s not real until it’s in the calendar. That’s step one. Step two is to take your “negative” leaders, put “NOT-TO-DO LIST” at the top, and put them somewhere you can see them each morning for the first few weeks of 2019. These are the people and things you *know* make you miserable, so don’t put them on your calendar out of obligation, guilt, or other nonsense.
That’s it! If you try it, let me know how it goes.
Just remember to fill your day with positive influence, it’s not enough to remove the negative. That simply creates a void. Get the positive things on the calendar ASAP, or they get crowded out by the bull crap and noise that will otherwise fill your days. Good luck and godspeed!